So you have meet this amazing person you are in relationship with and things are going on really smooth, so you just so excited that you just go and blab to any one who will listen how amazing, perfect and great they are for you , that absolutely great.
but on the flip side you will end up also talking about some things should never be spoken about to other people, especially in a relationship you tend to grow.
So, in this article , here are things you should never tell your friends about your relationship.
Details of the last fight.
There are ups and downs when it comes to relationship, every body knows that relationships are not perfect.
After all, its two imperfect being trying to live perfectly together or trying to have something perfect going. The difference between relationships that succeeds and those that don’t is those relationships that works/succeeds involves people who do not talk so much about what happened when things was soured.
No body expects people in the relationship to have lovey-dovey all the time, you should know there are though days and fights do happen, but the last thing you wanna do is to go and break it down to your friends who love and care about you so much the details of the fight. Find a way to fix the problem within your relationship, because by sharing the details, you’re guaranteeing yourself another fight soon. Telling anyone willing to listen won’t solve the problem; working on it with the person you love will.
Details of your sex life
Especially when you have a great sex life, you wanna come and tell everybody how you had multiple orgasms. It and intimate stuff , there is absolutely no reason why you need people know details like that, like how many times you guys have sex in a day or what styles and positions you did.
What you do behind closed doors with the person you love should remain behind closed doors. To be sexual and intimate with someone is one of the most vulnerable acts a human can expose themselves to. Sharing the details decreases the value of those intimate moments with your partner. No one needs to know how many times you’ve done it in the past month, or how tame or wild it is. If the two of you are happy with how it goes down, that’s all that matters.
In every relationship there will be money issues, there will be that one person who is more frugal than the other, and also a spendthrift.
Money is a sensitive subject for just about anyone who doesn’t have a million dollars in the bank. If you and your partner are having issues saving or paying off debt, that’s no ones business but yours. You two should work together to figure out a plan to make it work. If you need some help figuring it out, seek advice from an objective party and not be public knowledge.
Things they tell you in confident.
It should be understood that the level of confidentiality with your spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend is as high as it gets. It’s a safe space where they can share about their friends, family, or co-workers without worry that what they’ve said will be heard by anyone else. If they find out that something they’ve said found it’s way into the ear of someone that isn’t you, the trust in your relationship will be broken. If you break that trust, you’re then encouraging them to keep their thoughts to themselves. This will lead to more secrets, white lies, and a battlefield of discontent. Keep the safe space safe.
If there’s some intimate details of your relationship like some nude photos or racy emails being sent, there’s no need to show any of your friends. Your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife doesn’t need to say “for your eyes only” with each juicy message they send. It’s implied. Understand that they are trying to turn you on, not become a topic of conversation within your social circle.
Your partner’s insecurities
I may sound like a broken record here, but your marriage or relationship is a sacred safe space. Maybe your husband is a little overweight. Maybe your wife is an introvert and isn’t a big fan of social events. Don’t tarnish the trust of your relationship by making these private pieces of them public. It’s hard enough for them to share that insecurity with you, watching you share it with others will undoubtedly break their heart.
There dislikes for on one more of your friends.
This information is on a need to know basis, and your friends most definitely don’t need to know. If your partner isn’t a fan of your friends, it’s not the end of the world. They’re your friends, not theirs. As long as everyone is civil, that’s all that matters. Want to know how to turn things from civil to destructive? Tell all your friends that your guy or girl doesn’t enjoy their company.
Unless you want your friends to think negatively about your partner, don’t compare them to others in front of your friends. We all go through ups and downs in relationships; it doesn’t mean you run off crying to your friends about how your ex was so much better. These kinds of things don’t go away, they usually travel to your partner somehow, and it hurts them when they get to know how badly you talk about them and how little you try to make your friends respect them.