We sometimes focus too much on superficial things we have in common with our partners, like having the same hobbies and interests. Those can be important, but they’re not the most important things. Here are some signs you and your partner aren’t as compatible as you think.
- YOU IMMAGINE DIFFERENT FUTURES
If you and your lover share different set of core values on marriage, having kids and other personal goals, it can be a red flag for your relationship. It shows you both imagine different futures and want different things from life. Personal values and ethics are non-negotiable for most of the individuals and compromising on these might never bring fulfilment and happiness in your relationship.
- YOU BOTH SRE STUBBORN
It is normal for every couple to argue or fight and the way both the partners solve the issue determines how compatible they are together. If one or both of you prefer to sweep the issue under the carpet and pretend like nothing happened or keep on bickering on the same issues, it indicates you both are struggling to resolve the problems from the root. This can also be counted as a sign of incompatibility.
- YOU ARE NOT ON THESAME INTELLECTUAL LEVEL
Your differences don’t always have to be problems. If you’re both open to the idea of learning from each other, you can enrich your relationship and become more compatible. If you or your partner aren’t willing to do this, however, then it’s a huge obstacle you probably won’t be able to overcome. You’re basically shutting down the chance to have a meaningful relationship.
- YOU TREAT TIME DIFFERENTLY.
It might seem silly to think that having very different schedules can get in the way of your relationship, but it really can be a problem when it comes to compatibility. Imagine this: you want to spend lots of your spare time with your partner but he prioritizes his friends and partying. Or, you want him to make time for you during the week instead of just on the weekend, but he’s always at work or traveling. If you can’t make the time for each other, you’re not compatible because this is linked to your lifestyle choices. Those should be in sync if you’re going to make your relationship work.
- YOU DONT SHARE COMMON INTEREST
Everybody has what gets them going, one likes to hangout in the club and the others wants to have a good night with a good book. from the onset is ok, you accommodating you are in love. but as time goes on you begin to drop heart.
when you don’t have common interest you tend to spend less and less quality time as a couple. don’t forget the more things you do together as a couple ,the more bounding time available for both of you to really work on your relationship and have it improved .
you need to find something you can do together , the more you engage in similar activities the more the love goes stronger.
- YOU HAVE DIFFERENT VALUES AND BELIEVES.
Your values and moral codes must be in sync. Is your partner as honest and kind as you are? Does he value financial security over happiness or vice versa? If you value totally different things in life compared to your partner, it means you’re not prioritizing the same things, which can be a problem.
When it comes to believe, one is Christian the other is Muslim.
Now without imposing any Christian ideology on any one, the bible talks about hoe can both be together unless they are equally yoked.
Values or lack of common values in a relationship cant easily tear the relationship apart and quiet easily as well. so try to find some one who has similar value to you and you stand a chance at succeeding.
- YOU ARE NOT YOUSELF AROUND EACH OTHER .
Somehow, you have been dating your lover since quite some time and you are hesitant to be yourself in front of him/her. You are struggling to strike a rapport and develop a good understanding level. Well, when you are truly compatible with your lover, you do not shy away from expressing your true emotions.
- WHEN YOU HAVE DIFFERENT LOVE LANGUAGES
if one partner is more invested in the relationship than the other,” it might be a sign of incompatibility. Do you find yourself putting 110% into getting date nights and holiday plans together, whereas your partner can barely remember your anniversary? Or, do you feel like bae goes all in for your birthday and Valentine’s Day, while you don’t feel super compelled to do the same? Take note.
This imbalance may have even come into play in the very early stages of your relationship. “If your date cancels plans early on, doesn’t return text messages, or keeps showing up late, it’s not going to be better later on. This is a behavioural trait that shows lack of respect. If your relationship doesn’t make you feel like a priority early on, it’s not going to get better with time.”